Well iv been talking with a lad on vectra-c.com
who has said that I dont need to divorce the ecu from the donor I just need to reset my cars ecu and programme(thats the button on op-com) the new ecu to the car, as long as I have both security codes its ok(im told anyway)
or I buy this bit of loom that iv been offered for 14quid and I try to divorce or (reset which is the button on op-com) and go from there.
I just dont want to damage my car in anyway.