Well the problem is solved, i went with my opcom next day but there was no connection the laptop was saying connect interface, so i thought f##king brilliant then i checked all the fuses inside the car, all were fine i checked all fuses under bonnet all were fine.
So i went back inside car and turned the key. It started up. Phew. i don't know if it was an act of god or whatever but it is running ok now .
My pal contacted the guy he sends the map file to , he told him pulling the plug should not have caused that problem
There was a blown fuse on the floor my mate i think must have swapped the fuse the night before, but i'm not sure if we attempted to start the car again after that.
So it could have been a coincidence that a fuse blew at the time he pulled the lead from obd port
So luckily car is running again.
He even offered to get the map done for free cause the guy doing the mapping offered to do the first one free, but i think i will give it a miss got enough headaches. This palaver has put me off.