this has happened to me mark! but i bought an item! i paid pay pal and the seller said take your money back because he wasnt going to wait 21 days, but i couldnt because it had cleard from my pay pal account, so i left feed back on ebay so the seller would get his money but he hasnt sent the item! i am now out of pocket for £235 because of some crap idea that pay pal and ebay have come up with! if i was you i wouldnt send the item for the exact reasons you said! why should you run the risk of the other person being honest! i did and have been stung for £235! the only people who benifit is pay pal holding peoples money in there accounts! ITS A LOAD OF SHIT
i spoke to pay pal and if you can prove that the buyer has recived at there address and signed for the item then you will get your money! but still is not fair on you the seller or the buyer, i cant belive how many nu honest people there are in the world now makes me sick